Thomas Toler

Thomas Lee Toler, known affectionately to those closest to him as "Tommy," was born on August 18, 1950, in Craven County, North Carolina.

His charismatic spirit lit up every room he entered, and his empathetic nature made him a magnet for those who were fortunate enough to cross his path. Today, May 20, 2024, we celebrate the life of this extraordinary man who spent his entire life in the close-knit Caton Community of Ernul, North Carolina. To echo the words of William Shakespeare, "His life was gentle, and the elements so mixed in him that Nature might stand up and say to all the world, 'This was a man.'"

Thomas was a loving and devoted husband to Belle, his rock, and his beacon of light. His thoughtful demeanor and unwavering dedication were also evident in his professional life. A hardworking man, Thomas spent many years in the construction industry, building not just structures, but relationships and connections. His love for his work was only surpassed by his adoration for his family and friends. He was a good husband, a protective father, and a doting grandfather, who cherished his grandson, Colson, above all else. Thomas also had a unique love for auctions, where his infectious enthusiasm and genuine joy were always on full display.

In the words of Maya Angelou, "People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." This couldn't be more true for Tommy. His warm presence, empathy, and love touched many lives, leaving an indelible mark on those who knew him.

He is survived by his loving wife, Belle; daughter, Jessica McPhillips (Kevin); grandson, Colson; sister, Louise Watts (Mike); as well as a very special nephew, Bryan Arthur; and leaves behind a legacy of love, kindness, and dedication.

Thomas was preceded in death by his parents, Thurston and Margaret Toler; his brothers, Thurston Toler, Jr. and Phillip Toler. His memory will continue to live on, not only in the hearts of his family and friends but in the countless lives he touched throughout his life.

We invite you to share your memories of Thomas and upload photos to the memorial page. Let us celebrate his life and keep his spirit alive by sharing the stories of how he touched us all.